Posted: May 30th, 2010 | Author: Jonas Michels | Filed under: Self Improvement | Tags: body language, confidence, dating, dating advice, flirting, marriage, relationships, seduction, self help, Self Improvement, shyness, social anxiety | No Comments »
We have all had it happen…
You find a woman physically attractive.
But there is a little problem…
She feels no attraction for you.
Can you do anything about it?
Many experts will tell you that you need to be realistic about the cards you’ve been dealt – if a woman doesn’t find you sexy, there’s nothing you can do about it.
Refrain from doing this. You’re stifling your chances with her.
Despite what you look like, you can use a few simple yet powerful attraction secrets to trigger attraction in her.
Today I’m going to teach you one of them. It comes from the dating coach Swinggcat and is called a “Tension Loop”
A Tension Loop is when you do something to create unresolved emotional tension inside a woman, increase it, release it by bringing closure to it, and then spark it all over again. This will keep her feeling the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.
Soap opera writers use Tension Loops to keep women enraptured in their fictitious dramas for months – sometimes years! The structure is always the same. The soap starts off with some form of conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension. Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax. The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama. And, finally, the show ends by sparking the tension all over again, compelling women to tune in for next week’s show.
Within the context of dating and flirting, this tension becomes sexualized.
A powerful Tension Loop Swinggcat uses a lot is called “Push-Pull.”
Push-Pull is whenever you emotionally Push a girl away from you and then emotionally Pull her back in.
Each Push sparks emotional tension and each Pull releases it.
Let us take a look at an example…
Flatter a female with, “You have the most gorgeous smile I’ve seen tonight.”
She will say, “Thanks.”
Then say, “Actually you have the fourth best smile I’ve seen tonight. I’m gonna call you number four.”
She’ll demand, “I wanna be number one.”
Respond with, “For being feisty I’m promoting you to number three.”
She may whine, “But I wanna be # 1.”
Chide, “If you keep complaining I’m demoting you back down to number four.
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Posted: May 30th, 2010 | Author: Josh Lubens | Filed under: Self Improvement | Tags: body language, dating, dating advice, flirting, pick up lines, relationships, seduction, Self Improvement | No Comments »
Many a man has been at a bar, spotted an attractive woman and thought to himself, “Wow! She really works those breasts, bouncy bouncy.”
Next, he went up to talk to her and within the first thirty seconds of conversation the poor bastard went belly up as she hammered him to jelly.
He, then, walked away hunchbacked and long faced, wearing an existential funk ten times the size of his deflated ego.
Maybe you’ve been there before? I know I have. I used to be so scared to pick up women that I’d imagine them pointing out all of my physical flaws. How cool is that – I’d reject myself before she got a chance to reject me.
If you don’t know how to pick up women, then doing so will be more difficult than a blind man trying to find a needle in a haystack.
Most of the time, guys pick up girls for their beauty alone – and girls know this, my friend.
Half the time, even if you find them less attractive than the stench of foot and ass combined, they’ll still genuinely believe you’re hitting on them.
This, of course, is about to change. So keep reading…
Seeing most men pick up a woman is more embarrassing than stooling oneself in public. Think of the woman as a pro fisherman with tasty bait and the man as an unlucky fish who’s minutes away from being flayed, sauteed, and eaten for dinner.
Even if he’s a fighter, it’s too late – he’s already on the hook (albeit, if he happens to be her physical type, he’s got a shot at success).
Like other men, I’m also a fish – but a Parana jacked up on steroids. The moment they think they’ve hooked me in, I cast my pole and tempt them with irresistible bait.
They chomp down and – hot diggity – I’ve got them on my hook and I’m reeling them in.
Let me give you an example. If I’m at a nightclub, I may stand in a crowed area – maybe near the bar or ladies restroom. As a woman walks by I’ll stick out my elbow making it inevitable that she’ll bump into it.
And then I’ll bark, “Ow… you hurt me.”
Almost always , the woman will put her paw on my shoulder and say, “Oh my… I’m so sorry.”
I’ll usually shoot back with, “You can touch me but…only if you tell me an interesting story or a funny joke.”
This is not only a bundle of fun but also a powerful means of emotionally hooking a woman.
When the average man’s groin fills with lust for a sexy vixen, he starts coming up with ways to win her over.
In plain English, she’s hooked them in. Anything they do to win her over, reels them even closer.
In the example I gave you, I did the opposite: Instead of trying to impress her, I made her prove herself to me.
In every male/female interaction only one person can be the Prize at a given time. Two people can’t simultaneously chase each other.
You need to put yourself in the role of the Prize and the woman in role of the suitor working to win you over.
Josh Lubens, a world renowned relationship coach, writes under the penname Swinggcat and has taught men how to pick up women for over ten years. At his website, you can get free pick up lines that actually work.
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Posted: April 12th, 2010 | Author: Jonas Michels | Filed under: Self Improvement | Tags: body language, dating, dating advice, flirting, marriage, relationships, seduction, self help, Self Improvement, shyness, social anxiety | No Comments »
Have you ever spotted an attractive woman yet didn’t know what to say to her?
Not to worry.
We all have.
And it plains sucks.
On top of that, lots of women close up when they sense a male stranger is attracted to them.
I’m about to reveal a simple secret to you. Once you learn it, you’ll know what to say when you spot a woman you’d like to meet.
It’s called the “Opinion Opener.”
Instead of going up and hitting on a girl right away, you’re gonna get her opinion on something.
Most women will be more than happy to give you input. Furthermore, they won’t suspect you’re hitting on them.
This will give you time to feel them out before making it obvious that you want something more than their opinion.
But not just any old question will do.
Your question needs to be something emotionally relevant to women – think pop culture, pets, gossip, clothing, love triangles between celebrities, relationships… and so on.
One of my favorite opinion openers comes from the dating coach Swinggcat.
Here it is:
You: Hey girls, I want your opinion on something.
Girls: Go ahead.
You: My neighbor just got a baby boy pug dog and baby girl wiener dog. She wants to name them after an ’80s or ’90s pop duet or couple.
(Note: this may seem like a ridiculous question to ask women. But trust me – what was funny and interesting to you second grade is funny and interesting to them now.)
You’ve hooked them into a conversation. Now it’s time to playfully tease them.
Maybe say, as Swinggcat suggests, “Whoever comes up with the best names, gets a thousand dollars. If you give me a good name, fifty dollars has your name written all over it.”
The girls will complain, “You’re a meany. I want at least half.”
Warn them, “If you’re gonna be greedy, then I’m only giving you twenty five dollars.
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Posted: February 8th, 2010 | Author: Nate Dogg | Filed under: Society | Tags: approaching women, dating advice, hiroshima opener, how to approach girls, pick up artist, pick up girls, relationships, Society | No Comments »
Before we get to the ways you can learn how to approach girls, let’s talk about one of the most crucial aspects of approaching… identifying the exact reason why you can’t approach.
Approach anxiety is more than the fear of chatting to a woman. It’s also the way you let negative thoughts completely take over your thinking process at the worst possible time. It also involves the pressure you’ve unwittingly set up by memorizing tired old pick up lines and being thrown in a situation where these lines do not fit (like when you are interacting with a Cluster of girls rather than just one).
The truth is you’re a position to talk to all the women in the room if you just buck up and stick to the belief that you’re capable of captivating any woman there. You gotta be on you’re A-game. And, here are some smart ways to do that…
2 Tricks to Finding Out How to Approach Girls
1. Take “Self Improvement” Seriously
This term, “self improvement” has obtained so much publicity that it turned into something every guy thinks he can do at one point in the future. But the thing is, if you do not get into the mindset of “improving” at something as soon as you can, you will end up staying the same or stagnating.
What do I mean by this and what does it have to do with understanding how to approach women? It is easy to get caught up in the recollections of your past failed attempts to come up to women. It’s even more effortless to just ACCEPT that unless the girl you want to meet somehow magically appears in front of you, you will never make an effort to strike up a conversation with her.
In short, it’s easy to go with the flow and just HOPE that someday you’ll get lucky. Stagnation is probably the most dangerous hindrance to learning how to approach girls.
What’s the first step to improvement? Dare to get out of your comfort zone. If you’ve never tried something, try it now. It’s the act of pushing forward that will start it all for you. After which, improvement is inevitable.
2. If You Have It, Flaunt It
After you have worked your ass developing your character, your looks and your skills in dating, the subsequent step is to show everyone what you’ve got.
You know you are a great man, and your close friends know this too, but the group of girls over there do not. If you have got something to market, at some point you’re going to need to portray it. Sounds easy, and it’s. There’s just one problem.
Do not get overwhelmed with the MANY ways to approach women. Most guys try everything all at once without categorizing which techniques fit which situation. It’s this “information overload” that makes guys throw the towel when it comes to learning how to approach girls.
Here’s a secret trick… get one GREAT opener and keep doing it whenever you’re with a woman, or even a group of women. This system must be something that you’ve tested and has worked for you in the past.
If you’ve ever felt like “wimping out” when you see a hot girl (or a group of hot girls), it’s time to learn a great opener that works every time… the Hiroshima Opener. Read more about it here.
If you want to see the secret Hiroshima Opener and discover how to approach girls without rejection, just visit HiroshimaOpener.com